How do you handle family requests that you disagree with?

Interesting problem here. So I self host jellyfin, happy to share my (owned) movies with my family. Well, my mother has asked me to digitize her collection too and have me host it. Originally, fine, you give your movies to me, I host them, same thing.

However, what I didn't bet on was the amount of garbage, terrible movies she would give me. There's a few that are fine, but the vast majority are, well I'll just put it bluntly, christian propaganda. I don't think any of them are as terrible as some of the worst case, but think "My life was horrible until I found god now look and see how fulfilled I am" type propaganda - and they make for horrible plots. Left Behind with Kirk Cameron is a good example. Even removing the blatent boring christian plots - it's just a horribly made movie. Cheap, not thought out well, and honestly I read the book decades ago, it's a horrible adaptation too.

Not that I keep only top tier movies in my libraries, but these are, well they just bring a pit to my stomach.

What would you do in my situation? (And I'm going to go ahead and say the pure atheist comments aren't needed, yes of course I could burn them, or dance around them, but I'm not looking to just burn the bridge between my mother and myself over a lifetime of her indoctrination and bad taste in movies). I'm more looking for generic, how do you handle your users asking you to put content you don't find appealing on your server?

sfunk1x ,

You rip them and provide them to a community that will then re-dub them into something fun. Hilarity ensues.

Areexor ,

Just say you can't rip them because they have godly protection;)

OutlierBlue ,

They've got strong DRM (Divine Rights Management)

lud ,

If there are just a few movies just make a separate library or something.
If there are a fuck ton of shit movies that takes up lots of time to rip or use lots of storage, just say no.

ShepherdPie ,

Separate library was my thought as well. I'm also hesitant to put any requested movies on my server that are along the same vein, but if it's not too many, it really doesn't matter at the end or the day. It's just some crappy movies in a sea of other movies.

merthyr1831 ,

I'd keep the physical library around and just digitize as and when she asks for specific stuff. You'll probably never back up half the library. That or stick it on a HDD out of the way and transfer the few she wants, then tuck the drive in a draw forever in case she wants something else.

Jellyfin must have a feature like Plex where certain user accounts can have certain libraries attached? You could use that to avoid having to look at those crappy movies in your library.

I don't really have much of an issue with family recommendations but I do tell them that the space isn't unlimited so if they don't watch something they asked for I'm likely to remove it for something we WILL watch. In your case, you could at least have leverage to get her to narrow down what needs hosting and what doesnt.

Saik0Shinigami ,
@Saik0Shinigami@lemmy.saik0.com avatar

It's my library. I only approve shit that I want to be on there.

My users know this (including family). If they want to be picky they can run their own shit. I've denied plenty before.

An alternative answer is to "approve" it in overseerr, but remove the request in radarr. Or setup a blacklist for the name. Then just say that the tools can't find the movie, nothing you can do about it.

hperrin ,

You could make a new movie library named “Christian Propaganda”, put them all in there, and only give your mom access. She’ll probably be mad, but it’ll be funny and you’re technically abiding by her request. Once you have your laugh, you can change the name to “Christian Movies”.

AA5B ,

I’m not entirely sure what those movies are like, and don’t want to know, but …..

My Mom watches horrible Hallmark stuff constantly. As far as I can tell, every movie has the same plot, they are low quality, etc. The thing is they are simple feel good movies for her. She finds them relaxing and gets good feelings from them, perfectly appropriate for “entertainment “.

If there is any parallel here, my point is that you don’t have to appreciate them for your Mom to. Why does it matter whether you agree with the movies or not: do you love her? Do you want to help her with entertainment that makes her feel good /relaxed/entertained?

scrubbles OP ,
@scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech avatar

Honestly I'd be fine if it were hallmark movies. This is pure christian propaganda - very clear jabs that if you aren't christian then you are not happy. Take the lame hallmark plots that are fine, but then add in that they finding jesus suddenly made them happy, they gave up all of their non christian friends, and renounced their old life type stuff. Face value it's fine, but the undertone is just vile to me.

trolololol ,

Yeah this is the only post that I agree with so far.

To op, also have in mind that re watching movies many years later can feel a bit cringe even with great and recognized movies. People change their expectations over time and the collective aesthetics do too.

ancoraunamoka ,

The only good reply in the thread. Thanks for saying this

FitzNuggly ,

I usually just say " odd, i cant seem to find that one"

Crikeste ,

Christian propaganda? Destroy it and hide the evidence.

The less of that evil in the world, the better.

Strit ,
@Strit@lemmy.linuxuserspace.show avatar

A solution would be to place these movies in a seperate Library and only give your mother access to that library, so it does not show up for you other users.

RootBeerGuy ,
@RootBeerGuy@discuss.tchncs.de avatar

This is it. Also given the low quality of the movies production wise you can even rip them at suboptimal settings. I am sure Mom won't care if she watches her Christian propaganda at 4k or 720p with some visual artifacts.

HelixDab2 ,

720p? Pfffft. 240i. Rip them in '2014 YouTube over 2G' quality.

pyrosis ,
@pyrosis@lemmy.world avatar

Pretty much this it gets it's own folder and in jellyfin it's own library. You just give mom access to this and whatever else you want to. you unselect that library for everyone else. The setting is under users. It's straightforward and is a check mark based select. You probably have it set to all libraries right now. Uncheck that and you can pick and choose per user.

Tregetour ,
@Tregetour@lemdro.id avatar

If you agreed to host her collection carte blanche, that's your failure to manage expectations.

The better approach would have been to make an X GB partition (whatever you're comfortable allocating) say there's a specific amount of space available for family use. When it fills up it fills up.

tophneal ,

I tell people, like my friend that wanted a bunch of drivel kids stuff, that if they give me 2 hard drives I'll set them up as their own library.

DeltaTangoLima ,
@DeltaTangoLima@reddrefuge.com avatar

For my wife, I have a separate library folder, mapped to just her account in Plex. It doesn't appear in my library at all, so I don't really care. Even better, I've spun up an Overseerr instance for her, so she can just search and auto-add anything she wants for herself.

WamGams ,

You made an offer likely knowing what content your mother consumed.

Also, doing this for her means those charlatans aren't actually getting her money.

Something to consider in favor of doing your mom a solid.

Just make sure you out satanic films in the folder and rename them to Christian themed titles.

possiblylinux127 ,
@possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip avatar

It was a mistake to agree to that. Also I don't see how the types of movies change a thing

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